What She Wants You to Give Her for Christmas – Based on Myers-Briggs Type

A general, stereotypical guide to giving that special woman in your life just what she wants for Christmas.  You still have time!  Christmas isn’t for five more days, men!  😉


ESFJ – A super personal and unique piece of Etsy jewelry with her loved ones’ names engraved on it.

INFJ – High quality art

ENFJ – Donate to her favorite charity in her name, and then plan a future outing where you’ll volunteer at the charity with her

ISFJ – Chocolate and a maid for a week

ESTJ – That Pottery Barn formal chair she’s been eyeing.  It has to be THE color she picked out though.  Don’t try to guess.  It has to be perfect.

ISTJ – Is a bit horrified that you’re spending money on her.  Wants you to save it for a rainy day and clean the house for her instead

INTJ – For the glamorous INTJ woman: expensive perfume.  For the nerdy INTJ woman: books.  For the balanced INTJ woman: books that smell like perfume.

ENTP – Memorabilia from the last geek convention you both attended together

INTP – Tickets to a lecture given by her academic hero, or a comedian, or a book written by her hero/comedian that’s sat in her Amazon shopping cart forever and she forgot to buy

ENTJ – An antique or memorabilia from her favorite time in history.

ISTP – Has no interest in “gift-giving” on the whole.  Doesn’t mean a lot to her.  She’ll take  cash.

ESTP – A board game that guarantees she’d be able to cream the whole family next game night

INFP – A new kitten

ISFP – Fancy cooking oils and culinary delicacies

ENFP – A scavenger hunt to find clues to discover that you’re mysteriously taking her on a date

ESFP – Tickets to a theme park


Or, if all else fails, probably every type wants an ISFJ or ISTJ to come clean their house for them, while the ISJs are getting their own maid.  Can’t go wrong there…  😉

Myers-Briggs Help for Authors!

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Teaching in Taiwan, Modern Slavery, and Annie Douglass Lima!

Annie Douglass LimaToday, on the blog, I’d like to introduce you to Annie Douglass Lima!  I’ve hosted part of her blog tour in the past, and I’d like to just have her talk personally now, so you can meet the amazing and sweet author behind an incredibly original series!

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Hello, Annie!  What first inspired you to write about slavery and martial arts?

Annie: I’ve had the idea for the Krillonian Chronicles growing in my mind for the last few years.  It started as just a picture of the setting and its culture (with legalized slavery), and the plot and individual characters emerged little by little.  The martial art of cavvara shil didn’t enter my imagination until just before I started drafting The Collar and the Cavvarach.

Me: I’ve read both now, and they’re such a fun look at a totally different earth!  Speaking of earth, how many different places have you lived, and what is your favorite?

Annie: I’ve traveled to 21 different countries and lived in four of them (Kenya, the United States, Indonesia, and Taiwan). There are things I love about all of them, but Kenya, in particular, will always have a special place in my heart, since that’s where I grew up. Right now, though, I’d have to pick Taiwan. My husband and I have lived here for the last ten years, and it’s definitely home.

Me: Wow, that’s so fascinating! What are you currently doing in Taiwan?

Annie: I teach 5th grade in a missionary school called Morrison Academy. It’s a great school in a great location, and I love my job and my students! Oh, and in my free time, I write.

Me: A teacher after my own heart. ❤ So which character in the Krillonian Chronicles is your favorite?

Annie: All my characters are special to me in different ways (every author has to say that, right?).  One that was especially fun to write, though, is not actually even a real character.  Steene is constantly arguing with his conscience over the morality (or lack thereof) of owning a slave.  He imagines his conscience’s exact words as it responds to him, complete with body language.  I enjoyed giving his conscience a little personality of its own.  For example, after one particularly lame argument on Steene’s part, “his conscience rolled its eyes and refused to dignify that with a response.”

Me: Hahaha.  I love Steene.  I’m convinced he’s a male ESFJ, which is super unique in fiction!  😀

Annie: Some of my characters seemed to take matters into their own hands and decide they wanted a different role than the one I had planned for them.  For example, City Watch officer (the equivalent of a police officer) Kalgan Shigo ended up playing a much bigger part in the first book than I had anticipated.  While still a minor character, he is a more important one than he was originally supposed to be, and he plays a different – and much needed – role in Bensin’s life.  I loved watching him take charge and step into the position he wanted!

Me: I’ve got a character, the goofy, sweet, ditzy stepmother in the book I’m writing right now!  😀

Annie: However, my favorite character in this series is definitely Bensin, a teenage slave and martial artist.  The struggles he is forced to go through make him stronger, and I admire him for his perseverance and determination to meet his goals no matter what.  He is willing to sacrifice himself for those he cares about, and while his choices aren’t always the wisest, he is committed to doing what he feels is right.  Society is against him, since he’s a slave and has few rights, but that doesn’t stop him.

Me: Bensin’s a loyal, protector ISTJ.  😀  So, as I’m busy Myers-Briggs typing your characters for our audience… what’s the nicest thing anyone has ever said about your books?

Annie: Hmm, good question. I’ve been blessed to be on the receiving end of a lot of encouraging comments, but some of the best have come from my students. I always read at least one of my books to my class every year, and there’s usually someone in each class who will tell me I’m their favorite author or that was the best book they’ve ever read. Another form of (unspoken) compliment is when I catch a student sneakily reading one of my books behind their desk when they should be working on an assignment. (As you can imagine, that puts me in a difficult position, as the teacher and the author sides of me wrestle with how to respond!)

Me: Haha!  I love that!  So how do you think we, as Christians, can safely get more involved to help with modern slavery?

Annie: Prayer is always a powerful weapon. I suggest taking a look at a little devotional book called 30 Days of Prayer to End Sex Slavery by Alana Terry and Precarious Yates. It contains a lot of information to build awareness as well as suggestions for how to pray about this worldwide crisis.

Me: Ooooo, I love books with ways to pray in new ways!

Annie: I contacted Alana Terry, a friend of mine, and asked if she had any additional suggestions for how Christians can help. She has researched and written both fiction and nonfiction on the topic of modern slavery, so I knew she would have ideas. Alana suggests, “look at your budget and decide if any of the goods you regularly consume can be replaced for fair-trade products. Coffee, chocolate, and tea are some of the goods that are most notoriously created from slave labor.” Even if you can’t afford to buy everything fair trade all the time, how about choosing at least one thing to change? For example, maybe you could decide to only buy fair-trade coffee for a year, and encourage your friends and family members to do the same.

Me: Something so few of us think about.  😦

(Readers, be aware that Alana Terry’s books are very adult in nature and not being officially recommended on this webpage.  Read all of these topics at your own risk!  ❤ )

Thank you so much, Annie!  I love your heart as a teacher, author, and advocate for others!



Clean Romance, Infertility, and Marriage Advice from Melanie D. Snitker!

MelanieDSnitker2016Melanie D. Snitker is a sweet author friend of mine from Texas.  She writes stories with a heart – an emphasis on a deep love for each character, and a romance to go with it!  I’d like to think that if you enjoy my novels, you’d enjoy hers.  🙂

Melanie has prayed for me, knit baby cutesies for me, and encouraged me at the hardest of times.  I hope all of you can support her worthy books!  Thanks for being you, Melanie!

You can purchase Melanie’s books here on Amazon.com!

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Me: Hi, Melanie! Here at BlondeRJ, we’re all about Myers-Briggs types.  Share about being an ISFJ and what your personality is like. 🙂

Melanie: You know, I’d never thought much about the Myers-Briggs types until I met you, RJ! I find it all fascinating. Like you mentioned, I’m an ISFJ. I’m definitely quiet and very introverted. I get along well with people, and I tend to be a really good listener. If I say I’m going to do something, not only will it get done, but I’ll do my best while I’m working on it. I’m organized, and I rely heavily on lists and my online calendar. One of the biggest challenges I’ve faced ties into my being an introvert: I also tend to worry about what others think. I’m slowly getting better about this as I get older, but it was something that held me back for a long, long time. I think that it will always be something that’s in the back of my mind to a degree. I have to admit I really admire those who can say and do anything and not worry what others will think!

Me: Even we 100% extroverts can be people-pleasers and worry what others think, for sure.  I’ve been LOVING the book When People are Big and God is Small by Edward Welch, and would love to recommend it right now to my readers.  It’s helped me put God in His proper place, and see my need to love others instead of just *need* them.  🙂
Speaking of loving people, you write the sweetest romances ever. What first inspired you to help and write about clean romance for Christians?

Melanie: I enjoyed romance novels as a teen, but didn’t really read much beyond Janette Oke, Dee Henderson, and a few other Christian authors. When I got into high school, I started to browse through some of the other romance novels at the library. I was shocked to find that clean romance was a difficult thing to find. That’s when I decided I would start writing the kind of romance novels I wouldn’t mind my own daughter reading some day.

Me: What a sweet legacy!
How many different places have you lived, and what is your favorite?

Melanie: I’ve lived in Arizona, both in Flagstaff and Phoenix. A lot of people that haven’t been to Flagstaff are surprised to find that it has a lot of mountains, and it can get a fair amount of snow in the winter. I’ve also lived in many different places in Oregon as well as Texas (where I currently reside). My favorite place to live overall is Texas. The people here are incredibly friendly, I like the mild winters, and I love all the wildflowers (bluebonnets, especially) in the spring. My second favorite place would be Oregon, especially in the fall when all the leaves turn. Gorgeous!

Me: I live in the gorgeous pacific northwest as well!  Love it!
Melanie, you were a huge encouragement to me two years ago. Can you tell us about one of the hardships you’ve experienced and how God has used that in your life? ❤

Melanie: I have endometriosis and it has resulted in a lot of infertility issues that I’ve dealt with for a long time. It took two and a half years of tests and a surgery for my endo before we found out our son was on the way. After he was born, we’d hoped that the next baby would be much easier. Four and a half years later (after another surgery and different medications), we were finally able to try one round of IVF. Praise God, one of those sweet embryos burrowed in to stay, and our daughter was born eight months later. There were so many times during this journey when I wondered where God was and why this had to be so hard. But I learned more about patience than I would’ve liked to, and I also learned about God’s perfect timing. There have been many times in the last six years since our daughter was born where I’ve looked back and realized that, even though I didn’t think so at the time, God really did know what He was doing!

Me: I loved your faith when I was going through that hardship myself!  And you have absolutely beautiful kiddos!!  You have absolutely beautiful characters too.  😛 Which character, in all of your books, is your favorite?

Melanie: I’m going to have to go with Lexi (although Lance is a close second). She’s introduced in Finding Peace, the first book the Love’s Compass series. Then she and Lance get their own story in the second book, Finding Hope. She’s my favorite because she goes through a lot in her life with a cancer diagnosis that leads to a complete hysterectomy which saves her life. It also means she’ll never have children of her own. What causes her inability to get pregnant may be very different from what I or many of my friends have experienced with infertility, but many of the emotions are the same. She’s definitely a character that was written straight from my heart.

Me: Awww.  I remember Lexi!  So what’s the nicest thing anyone has ever said about your books?

Melanie: I’ve had several readers thank me for creating quality, clean romance novels that they can read without the guilt, and that they wouldn’t hesitate to let their teen daughters read as well. It’s what I originally set out to do, and even though the road of an author can be a rocky one at times, it’s encouragement like that which reminds me it’s all worth it!

Me: Amen! On a real-life front, how do you think we, as Christians, can learn to love like Christ more in our marriages?

Melanie: I think it’s easy to get caught up in every day life. Things get hectic, the kids always need something, and by the end of the day, it’s easy to feel like we have nothing left to give. But it’s the little things that show Christ’s love in a marriage. Like when my husband is completely exhausted, yet takes the trash out with a smile. Or when I’ve had a rough day and I’m tired, but I bake my husband the cookies he loves because it will brighten his afternoon. The other day, we had a busy afternoon full of cleaning and grocery shopping. I’ll admit, I was a complete grump by dinner and not much fun to be around. Instead of getting upset with me, or even letting my mood change his, my sweet husband made a trip to the store to find something I was looking for, and even brought something else back that made me laugh. Finding ways to put our spouse first, even when it isn’t easy, can give us even a small glimpse of the kind of unconditional love that Christ has for us!

Me: I think your home must be very joyful and warm.  🙂  Thank you, Melanie!

Melanie: Thanks again, RJ!

Writing, Fighting Trafficking, Addison’s Disease, and Kimberly Rae!

This week I’m heading to Realm Makers!  It’s a Christian, speculative fiction, writing convention that is being held, this year, in Reno, Nevada!  I’m taking the five month old, and will be gone from Wednesday – Sunday, so I’d appreciate your prayers!  Prayers for good health, good energy, good fellowship, good learning, and a God-glorifying attitude would be much appreciated.  ❤  Secretly, I’m super nervous!

Meanwhile, I’ve been trying to reach out to other authors who are similar to me – same heart for counseling believers, similar writing style and genre, or a hero of sorts to me. ❤  I’ve been in contact with four ladies who write everything from historical fiction to alternative drama to psychological thrillers to clean romance. It’s my hope that if you like these ladies’ books, you’ll like mine and vice versa!  🙂

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Today, it’s an immense pleasure to introduce you to Kimberly Rae! She wrote my very favorite series of the year – and maybe of all time – the Broken Series!  The story involves members of a church all dealing with abuse, anti-trafficking, and saving women from prostitution.  But the best part is that they are so real and relatable.  They are Every Church, and 5 Shreddedevery Christian should read these books!  ❤


I asked Kimberly some questions and she graciously replied!

Me: Here at BlondeRJ, we’re all about Myers-Briggs types.  Do you know your personality type?  If not, are you an extrovert or introvert?  

Kimberly: Through talking to you, RJ, we figured out my type!  I’m an INFJ (explanation here).

People see me as an extrovert but I am actually an introvert. I’m very nervous around strangers and need time by myself to recharge. One odd thing about me is that I enjoy speaking to huge crowds, but get very uncomfortable in small groups.

Me: I adore INFJs!  I’m even raising one.  😉 What first inspired you to help and write about trafficked women and victims?

Kimberly: When I first had to come back to the US, I wanted some way to stay involved but wasn’t sure how. When I started considering writing a novel, I tossed around some ideas but didn’t know quite what to focus on. I was talking with my mom one day and she said, “If 1 Stolen Womanyou could write about anything, what would you write about?” By the end of the day, I think I had three chapters of Stolen Woman written. It was the book I felt I was meant to write – it combined things I care deeply about: fighting trafficking, missions, and women knowing their worth in Christ. Stolen Woman is still my best-selling book out of all of them. I love how God is using it!

Me: I still haven’t read Stolen Woman, and I know I need to remedy that right away!  You said, “Coming back to the US…” How many different places have you lived, and what is your favorite?

Kimberly: I’ve lived in several states in the US, but overseas is Bangladesh, Uganda, Kosovo and rickshawIndonesia. The most interesting by far was Bangladesh. There are over 100 million people in a tiny country about the size of Michigan! It was creative chaos, and their love for bright colors and loud noises and super spicy food just was so fun for me at age twenty-two, fresh out of college and ready to experience the world. I remember being in a rickshaw one day when a riot broke out in the road in front of me, and I thought, “If I knew I was going to live through this, it would be really exciting!” I got to wear beautifulmarket in Thailand shalwar kameez outfits, experience their amazing gift of hospitality, and I even ate cow brains!

Me: That’s amazing!  And you’ve had quite the trials yourself.  ❤  Can you tell us about what illnesses you struggle with on a daily basis and how God has helped your faith through them?

Kimberly: I have Addison’s disease, asthma, hypoglycemia and a rare condition called Ehlers-Danlos syndrome. My day is very structured with specific diet requirements, medication, trying to deal with chronic pain, and responding to symptoms, etc. Like 90% of people with chronic illness, I often “don’t look sick,” so have to be careful about not doing too much to try to keep up with healthier people out of a sense of expectation by them or myself. I’ve taken up a beautiful verse from 1 Corinthians 8:12 that says the gift is accepted according to what one has, not according to what one does not have. God has DIGITAL CAMERAlimited me physically, so I am not expected to do what a person with more physical resources can do (just like finances and everything else – God is the provider, and He asks us to give back out of what He has provided, no more, no less).

I used to care very much about doing a lot, and realized I was finding my worth in how much I got done rather than in Christ’s value for me. Now God has taken away my ability to “compete” in that way (we women are pretty bad about competing with each other, aren’t we?) and now He is transforming me (sometimes kicking and screaming, I admit) into a representative of His beautiful truth that our worth is not in what we do or how much we do, but in Him and His love for us. If we can be radiant in that love, and not need to prove ourselves, oh, how we could change the world! We’d stop being so intimidating, so stressed, and so resentful, and instead shine beautiful and strong and at peace. A woman living full of joy and peace is a treasure. I want to be like that.

I won’t lie. Living with disease and health problems and daily pain is hard. Some people tell me that if I just had enough faith, it would all go away. I’ve learned over the years that it takes a lot more faith to trust God when He doesn’t “fix” things as when He does. My need for Him is constant, and living with a body that betrays me keeps my mind on the eternal, which isn’t a bad thing. In every difficulty is a gift—if you look for it, you’ll find it. God is there, offering the peace that passes all understanding, and the joy that is beyond current circumstances. There is purpose in what we go through, and for all I have learned of my God, and all He has taken away and given in replacement, I wouldn’t trade my life for anyone’s.

Well, that wasn’t brief. Sorry! That’s why I’ve got a series of books on living joyfully despite chronic illness—there’s a lot to say!

Me: What a beautiful, beautiful testimony, Kimberly!  And you seem to totally understand human nature and the heart, as evidenced by your writing.  ❤  Speaking of which, I bought the “You’re Sick, They’re Not” book you wrote and look forward to reading it! But, if we’re talking the books I HAVE read, which character in The Broken series is your favorite?

Kimberly: Candy and Jean, but for different reasons. I love Jean because she has so much potential and value inside her, but she doesn’t know it, and I love how she grows and blooms and gets set free. Candy is my favorite because she’s so fun and so real. Her character is actually based on someone I know! To this day, sometimes I’m in church and I imagine her walking down the aisle with all her stuff dropping behind her, and I want to crack up right there during the service. =)

Me: I looooooove Candy.  She’s my favorite too.  She has the most spunk EVER. 😀 What’s the nicest thing anyone has ever said about your books?

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Kimberly: Can I pick two?

Me: Absolutely!

Kimberly: A lady told me once that her pastor’s wife said Francine Rivers used to be her favorite author, but now I am. Francine Rivers is MY favorite author, so that was huge, huge, huge to me.

Back in the beginning, after Stolen Woman came out, a teenager sent me an email that said, “Your book changed my life.” That has stayed with me and meant so much all these years.

Me: You are WAY better than Francine Rivers, and it’s my blog, so I can say so.  😀 

Last, and definitely not least, how do you think we, as Christians, can safely get more involved to help trafficking/sex/drug victims and prostitutes?

Kimberly: It is a great time to be fighting human trafficking and exploitation! There are over 2,000 groups actively involved around the world. Some of my favorites are:

Rahab’s Rope (Mumbai, India) – www.rahabsrope.com

Women At Risk Int. (worldwide) – www.warinternational.org

Tiny Hands (Nepal) – www.tinyhands.org

There are lots more sites and statistics and ways to get involved on my website. If you go to www.kimberlyrae.com, on the right sidebar you’ll see posts about fighting trafficking internationally, nationally, and even locally. There are so many ways to make a difference. Feel free to use to the “contact” button on the site if you have questions or need ideas – I’d love to help you change the world!

Me: Thank you, thank you, dear Kimberly!






If Your GPS had a Personality Type…

If your GPS system had a Myers-Briggs personality type, she would say this:nokia-own-voice


ESTJ: You will arrive at your destination faster than everyone else in a burst of efficient machoism.

ENTJ: Pass the sucker on your left. It is probably an old lady who needs to eat your dust.

ENFJ: In 400 feet, stop and feed the homeless.

ESFJ: If you arrive late and make me look bad, I will never work for you again.

ISFJ: On your right, you will pass a building that has fond memories for me. Let me tell you about my childhood while you drive.

ISTJ: In 2.6543 miles, you will make a 75 degree angle to your left. In 2.6542 miles, you will make a 75 degree angle to your left. In 2.6541 miles…

INTJ: The route guidance wishes she could have planned these roads better. Do not take the Frontage road because it is badly designed by a nincompoop.

INTP: I will be completely silent and zone out and hope you do not miss a turn while I plan up your next route.

INFP: In a quarter of a mile, stop and park on the right. Please look up at the stars and enjoy them before continuing on your way.

INFJ: I will now provide an epic soundtrack for you to regale yourself with and use to daydream until the next direction is needed.

ESTP: I refuse to work in anything other than a motorcycle. Why are you in this lame minivan?

ISTP: I will shut up because you have a feeling you know your way around better than I could ever tell you.  And your journey will be far more amusing than following my directions.

ISFP: The architecture, on your left, is stunning. Please enjoy the buildings around you for their beautiful windows and lattices.

ENTP: I will now take you on a detour while you talk to the passenger next to you. The conversation’s more important than the drive.

ENFP: Commencing dropping windows, raising music volume, and encouraging you to wave at other drivers. This will better the world.

ESFP: Do you look cute? Does my voice sound cute? Do you drive a cute car? Oh, I hope the car is clean.

What do Lady Gaga, Personality Types, and Rainbows Have in Common?


The answer to my title is: They’re all in my yearly stats!

This year I saw the best traffic on this web page in all of my years of mc_guime_performing_live_to_5_thousand_peopleblogging!  I had 15, 507 views from 11,248 visitors.  All in all, I had exactly 555 comments.  🙂

People browsed the most from the United States, with Canada at second place, and United Kingdom coming in third.

Readers came from Facebook most often, with Reddit hitting a close 2000px-facebook_icon-svgsecond, and search engines being the third choice.  The most common search terms were “shocking truth about lady gaga,” “hiding” (???  Okay?) and “blonde rj.”

After reading my article, people then were most likely kgpsqbx3to click links that took them to Amazon.com (To buy my books!), or to my best friend’s page at The Simmering Mind, or to Jane Friedman’s description of the “literary novel.” Hello, Jane!  We don’t know eachother, but I hope you enjoyed the traffic!  I loved your article.  🙂

Onto my top 10 posts!  

These are the posts with the highest views in 2015!

#1 Liminal Fantasy and the Stupid Heroineposing20in20a20spider20girl20costume

This was a huge success on Reddit (Click to read the discussion), mainly due to the fact that I simply beefed on a trope of fiction that so many of us are sick of.  It was fun to write and rant all in one!

#2 In Memory of Victoria Mercy Conte

My heart is full thinking about this post making it to the #2 spot.  ❤  MyConte - 052 husband wrote this speech, and then spoke in front of a large gathering at his littlest sister’s funeral.  This was a tough year for the Conte family, and we miss our little butterfly very much.  My husband’s words are tender, compassionate, and yet hopeful – since we know she’s with the Lord.  I hope his writing continues to bless even more people.  ❤

#3 Anime Characters by Myers-Briggs Type

People love Myers-Briggs and people love anime.  This is a combination ofmami_tomoe_render_by_moeblueberry1771-d5evnl7 the two.  It took me a while to find all the pictures and correct spelling of names.  This is an ongoing project, so a link to it sits in the right-hand sidebar of this page at all times.  The majority of Redditors agreed with  my assessment of types, so I’m glad.  I wasn’t terribly happy with how WordPress sometimes insisted on formatting the pictures, but it works.

#4 All Myers-Briggs Humor Posts

I’m going to lump all of my Myers-Briggs humor posts into one place, murder_scenesince they were all in the top 10.  These do very well on Reddit, and are all similar in style.  I do them when I want a comical post in between serious posts.  Find your type!

How Each Myers-Briggs Type Responds to Finding a Spider in the Shower

How Each Myers-Briggs Type Responds to Endless Videos of Your Children on Facebook

How Each Myers-Briggs Type Would Respond to a Visit from an Alien

How Each Myers-Briggs Type Reacts to a Dead Body


#5 Lessons from Job on Infertility

I’m really glad I decided to share my struggles, as it took me quite some 325554_f520time of suffering with this before I felt brave enough to share.  It has been wonderfully relieving to have other people know what we’re going through, and secondary infertility is not talked about very often.  Job is a powerful, wonderful book, and I’ve been clinging to it all year.  Could use prayer, as we still don’t have any answers about why we have not been able to have more children.  😦

#6 Make Your Mami Tomoe Musket for Under $20!BeFunky_IMG_4671.jpg

Believe it or not, this hit my top 10 list!  This is for the cosplay crowd, or lovers of Puella Magi Madoka Magica.  I can’t wait to go to an anime-con and see someone who actually made this musket.  😀  Meanwhile, I’ll be bringing mine, so look for me at Sakura-Con!

#7 Somewhere Over the Rainbow?

Another post about my difficulties from this year, this one with a more general, artistic, lyrical bent.  Again, I’m glad that my excruciatingly honest posts are the ones that get the most views.  If God can use my trials for good in someone else’s life, I can sleep a little easier at night wading through the challenges.  Please pray for my family.  ❤

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#8 Sakura-Con Friday Part 2!Ruby blur

This is really random that this was my #8 top viewed post.  This is simply one part of an anime convention I went to, complete with pictures of cosplayers.  Maybe someone saw themself and reshared it a bunch of times.  🙂

#9 An Open Letter to My Pregnant Sister

This one still astounds me that it’s hit the top 10 list two years in a row. beautiful-wedding-tiara This is my most-searched-for blog entry, and gets hit by people on search engines almost daily.  I still wonder if people think they’re going to find something juicy, or if there are just a lot of pregnant sisters out there.  🙂 I was able to revamp this devotional a bit and use it in another baby shower this year.  🙂

And lastly…

#10 I’ve Never Told My Kids to “Bow Your Head and Close Your Eyes”

WOOHOO!  So glad this recent post made it on the list of top entries of child_prayer3_679979819the year!  Let’s continue to challenge ourselves spiritually, parents, and fight unbiblical and extrabiblical dogmas!  Let’s fight hypocrisy and be Christians under grace in our parenting.  If you haven’t given this a read, I hope you will do so and leave your thoughts!

Thank you, readers, for making this the best year of blogging ever!  Can’t wait to bring you Heartsick, and The Hotline Girl and 12th Girl (from a new publisher!) – and hopefully good news on a couple fronts – this next upcoming year.  Regardless, God is God and He is good and takes care of me, as evidenced by the fact that I haven’t stopped fighting the good fight, and I have your abundant friendship.  I am so grateful for all of you!  God bless your 2016!!!



Weird Facts About RJ Conte

Hello friends and readers!

Are you guys getting excited for Heartsick?  I am!  IMG_1227It’s my longest book – at over 80,000 words, and it’s currently getting a cleaning up.  After editing, I hope to have this baby out to you sometime January-February of next year.  I have a love for young people – especially Christian, homeschooled, “worldly-naive” young people.  Because I was one of them!  I hope my heart shows in Heartsick, which is a romantic suspense for 18+.  I love you guys, and your hearts mean a lot to me.  I hope God uses this book in each of your lives.  ❤

I thought, as a little addition, I would put out five interesting facts about the author.  I hope that getting to know me interests you more in my books, and helps us be friends even more.  Please leave any of your own questions in the comments, and I’ll answer them if I can!

  1. I used to play softball and tennis.  I am NOT sporty, and was always a mediocre player in softball, but tennis I truly enjoyed.  I have good memories of softball, however, because I got to be on a team.  I’m 100% extroverted, and just loved the aspect of having a group of girls all rooting for eachother and working together.  🙂  I used that time to evangelize, make friends, and pray for the girls.  It was pretty special, even if I was stuck as an outfielder because my actual playing skills were so-so.  😛
  2. I taught piano for ten years, taking a break when we moved to the pacific northwest in March of 2014.  I’ve recently taken up IMG_0559teaching again as my two daughters begin piano lessons with me.  🙂  Teaching piano kept me sane for the very lonely hours of writing I spent every week as a young adult.  I had to have people time to balance out the alone time.  Piano teaching was a joy, and I never got tired of it.  🙂
  3. I think in full sentences.  This lends itself to writing, of course.  But, also, whenever anyone asks me, “What are you thinking?” I can spew it out in complete paragraphs at a moment’s notice.  I don’t think my brain is actually all that artistically creative.  It’s very black and white and neat and orderly.  Boxes of all sizes and black and white sentences.  At least synesthesia helps bring some color to my brain.  🙂
  4. I respond to almost all of life with deep feels and obsessive thought.

    I even eat COOKIES passionately!

    Very few things don’t matter to me, and I feel strongly about everything (which can be exhausting).  I get attached to people and objects and houses and places and things very easily.  When I was younger, I was in a homeschool biology class where we took… mosquitoes?  They were bigger than mosquitoes, but they had wings… and we attached them, with clear nail polish to a microscope slide.  After class, I asked if I could take mine home.  I called him Dead Fred, carried him with me everywhere


    Me pretending to be a death-loving Goth while researching and writing Angel-Lover (see side bar of this page for url to Amazon)

    and petted him like a pet.  I stroked him so much, his head fell off, and I, still, to this day, in a box at the back of the closet, have a broken slide with a headless bug on it.  Someone should’ve given me a real pet.  Seriously.  It was pathetic.  I met new neighbors, the Hebdens, for the first time by shoving my bug at them and saying, “This is Dead Fred, my pet.”  It’s amazing Jennifer Hebden and I became best friends after that, and that she and her family didn’t run screaming. Yeah, I would NEVER be able to keep a Lucent Sylph alive…

  5. I read a quote about someone “not quite being in love, but having a tender curiosity,” and I would say that is my outlook on the entire world.  I don’t fall in and out of love easily or anything, and I’m IMG_0156happily married, but I feel a loving, tender curiosity for all people – including you reading this now!  Please leave me a comment so I can get to know you.  🙂


I should also have news for you, in a bit, about The Hotline Girl and The 12th Girl in Heaven, both of which were picked up by Cleanreads.com, the publishing house, and should be out on the market again next spring – with brand, spanking new covers!  Excited to share!

Anime Characters by Myers-Briggs Type

This is my personal opinion, and I will be adding to this frequently.

 I do not promote or advertise any of the anime listed.  Watch all anime at your own risk.

To read my list of anime and k/jdramas to introduce to the American newbie viewer, click HERE.


Naoe Riki

Riki Naoe — Little Busters

Mami Tomoe

Mami Tomoe — Puella Magi Madoka Magica

Shirley Fenette — Code Geass


Risa Koizumi — Lovely Complex


Osono — Kiki’s Delivery Service


Rika Shinozaki — Sword Art Online

Jun Nagase — Kami nomi zo Shiru Sekai

Misa Amane — Death Note


Tamaki Suou — Ouran Koukou Host Club

Hayama Hayato — Yahari Ore no Seishun Rabu Kome wa Machigatteiru

Komachi Hikigaya — Yahari Ore no Seishun Love Come wa Machigatteiru


Tohru Honda — Fruits Basket

Yuzuru Otonashi — Angel Beats!

Akari Shiodome — Nagi-Asu: A Lull in the Sea

Sakura Kinomoto — Cardcaptor Sakura

Yuuta Togashi — Chuunibyou demo Koi ga Shitai!

Tsubasa Andou — Gakuen Alice

Kazuya Kujou — Gosick

Ohana Matsumae — Hanasaku Iroha

Kaede Saitou — Yama no Susume

Shouta Kazehaya — Kimi ni Todoke

Pazu — Tenkuu no Shiro Laputa


Atsushi Ootani — Lovely Complex

Hikari Sakishima — Nagi-Asu: A Lull in the Sea

Hiyori Moritani — Kotoura-san

Daiki Tasaki — Kokoro ga Sakebitagatterunda

Hachirota Hoshino — Planetes

Ai Tanabe — Planetes

Ryouko Asakura — Nagato Yuki-chan no Shoushitsu

Sumire Shouda — Gakuen Alice

Ami Kawashima — Toradora!

Meiling Li — Cardcaptor Sakura

Takashi Waku — Bokurano

Masato Inohara — Little Busters!

Mint Aizawa — Tokyo Mew Mew

Michiru Kinushima — Plastic Memories

Weiss Schnee — RWBY


Misaki Ayuzawa — Kaichou wa Maid-sama!

Seiya Kanie — Amagai Brilliant Park

Yuri Nakamura — Angel Beats!

Yuriko Mifune — Kotoura-san

Winter Schnee — RWBY

Shinka Nibutani — Chuunibyou demo Koi ga Shitai!

Kanata Futaki — Little Busters!

Hikari Hanazono — Special A

Asuna Yuuki — Sword Art Online

Shizuka Hiratsuka — Yahari Ore no Seishun Love Comedy wa Machigatteiru


Sanae Dekomori — Chuunibyou demo Koi ga Shitai!

Akio Furukawa — Clannad

Ritsu Tainaka — K-On!

Yoshihisa Manabe — Kotoura-san

Atsuko Kagari — Little Witch Academia

Kyousuke Natsume — Little Busters!

Ika Musume — Shinryaku! Ika Musume

Rintarou Okabe — Steins;Gate

Haruhi Suzumiya — Suzumiya Haruhi no Shoushitsu

Toshinari Seki — Tonari no Seki-kun

Hinata Kuraue — Yama no Susume


Ichigo Momomiya — Tokyo Mew Mew

Manaka Mukaido — Nagi-Asu: A Lull in the Sea

Rinko Yamato — Ore Monogatari!

Yui Hirasawa — K-On!

Mikan Sakura — Gakuen Alice

Ayu Tsukimiya — Kanon

Kaori Miyazono — Shigatsu wa Kimi no Uso

Sayaka Miki — Puella Magi Madoka Magica

Kiki — Kiki’s Delivery Service

Yui Yuigahama — Yahari Ore no Seishun Love Comedy wa Machigatteiru

Ruby Rose — RWBY

Mikoto Mikoshiba — Gekkan Shoujo Nozaki-kun

Iori Nagase — Kokoro Connect


Purin Fon — Tokyo Mew Mew

Pino — Ergo Proxy

Yang Xiao Long — RWBY

Yuina Wakura — Hanasaku Iroha

Narumi Anjo — Gakuen Alice

Konomi Fujimiya — Non Non Biyori

Haruka Saigusa — Little Busters!


Satsuki Matsumae — Hanasaku Iroha

Mahiro Fuwa — Zetsuen no Tempest

Sun Wukong — RWBY


Spike Spiegel — Cowboy Bebop

Sucy Manbavaran — Little Witch Academia

Faye Valentine — Cowboy Bebop

Makoto Sunakawa — Ore Monogatari!

Ursula — Kiki’s Delivery Service

Qrow Branwen — RWBY

Kumiko Oumae — Hibike! Euphonium

Kyouko Sakura — Puella Magi Madoka Magica

Kazuto Kirigaya — Sword Art Online


Isuzu Sento — Amagi Brilliant Park

Sui Shijima — Hanasaku Iroha

Umetarou Nozaki — Gekkan Shoujo Nozaki-kun

Rin Kaga — Usagi Drop

Daikichi Kawachi — Usagi Drop

Natsuki Nitou — Kokoro ga Sakebitagatterunda

Tomoru Sakishima — Nagi-Asu: A Lull in the Sea

Saitama — One Punch Man

Komari Koshigaya — Non Non Biyori

Mio Akiyama — K-On!

Kyon — Suzumiya Haruhi no Shoushitsu

Rumi Yokoi — Tonari no Seki-kun

Satoru Fujinuma — Boku Dake Ga Inai Machi (ERASED)

Yuuichi Aizawa – Kanon

Aoi Yukimura — Yama no Susume

Yoshino Takigawa — Zetsuen no Tempest

Masaya Aoyama — Tokyo Mew Mew

Haruhi Fujioka — Ouran Koukou Host Club

Nodoka Manabe — K-On!

Saber — Fate/Zero

Ren Tsuruga — Skip Beat!


Shaoran Li — Cardcaptor Sakura

Reina Kousaka — Hibike! Euphonium

Lelouch Lamperouge — Code Geass

Daichi Muroto — Kotoura-san

Kaede “Candy Store” Kagayama — Non Non Biyori

Re-l Mayer — Ergo Proxy

Masaru Kodaka — Bokurano

Natsume Hyuuga — Gakuen Alice

Hotaru Imai — Gakuen Alice

Light Yagami — Death Note

Tsumugu Kihara — Nagi-Asu: A Lull in the Sea

Kayo Hinazuki — Boku Dake Ga Inai Machi

Victorique de Blois — Gosick

Aria Hitotose — Shirobako Specials

Minko Tsurugi — Hanasaku Iroha

Azusa Nakano — K-On!

Rin Natsume — Little Busters!

Fee Carmichael — Planetes

Kurisu Makise — Steins;Gate

Yukino Yukinoshita — Yahari Ore no Seishun Love Comedy wa Machigatteiru

Zakuro Fujiwara — Tokyo Mew Mew

Ryou Shirogane — Tokyo Mew Mew

Saena Mogami — Skip Beat!

Hotaru Imai — Gakuen Alice

Katsuragi Keima — Kami nomi zo Shiru Sekai

Taiga Aisaka — Toradora!

Himeko Inaba — Kokoro Connect


Ririchiyo Shirakiin — Inu x Boku SS

Homura Akemi — Puella Magi Madoka Magica

Hotaru Ichijou — Non Non Biyori

Ayato Naoi — Angel Beats!

Suzaku Kururugi — Code Geass

Kenya Kobayashi — Boku Dake Ga Inai Machi


Lettuce Midorikawa — Tokyo Mew Mew

Nagisa Furukawa — Clannad

Itaru Shiodome — Nagi-Asu: A Lull in the Sea

Chisaki Hiradaira — Nagi-Asu: A Lull in the Sea

Lotte Yansson — Little Witch Academia

Takeo Gouda — Ore Monogatari!

Eru Chitanda — Hyouka

Luca Nogi — Gakuen Alice

Kudryavka Noumi — Little Busters!

Madoka Kaname — Puella Magi Madoka Magica

Mikuru Asahina — Suzumiya Haruhi no Yuuutsu

Yuki Nagato — Nagato Yuki-chan no Shoushitsu

Ryuuji Takasu — Toradora!

Ui Hirasawa — K-On!

Taichi Yaegashi — Kokoro Connect

Kyoko Mogami — Skip Beat!

Kousei Arima — Shigatsu wa Kimi no Uso


Tomoyo Daidouji — Cardcaptor Sakura

Mayuri Shiina — Steins;Gate

Kaname Isaki — Nagi-Asu: A Lull in the Sea

Tsumugi Kotobuki — K-On!

Pyrrha Nikos — RWBY

Itsuki Koizumi — Suzumiya Haruhi no Yuuutsu

Kokona Aoba — Yama no Susume

Saika Totsuka — Yahari Ore no Seishun Love Comedy wa Machigatteiru


Rikka Takanashi — Chuunibyou demo Koi ga Shitai!

Vincent Law — Ergo Proxy

Mizore Yoroizuka — Hibeke! Euphonium

Ema Yasuhara — Shirobako

Chizuru Honda — Bokurano

Jun Naruse — Kokoro ga Sakebitagatterunda

Nako Oshimizu — Hanasaku Iroha

Miuna Shiodome — Nagi-Asu: A Lull in the Sea

Sawako Kuronuma — Kimi ni Todoke

Mio Nishizono — Little Busters!

Moeka Kiryuu — Steins;Gate

Aika Fuwa — Zetsuen no Tempest

Blake Belladonna — RWBY


Kanade Tachibana — Angel Beats!

C.C. — Code Geass

L Lawliet — Death Note

Suguru Koshigaya — Non Non Biyori

Hachiman Hikigaya — Yahari Ore no Seishun Love Comedy wa Machigatteiru

Renge Miyauchi — Non Non Biyori

Yuki Souma — Fruits Basket

Houtarou Oreki — Hyouka

Soushi Miketsukami — Inu x Boku SS

Takumi Usui — Kaichou wa Maid-sama!

Yuiko Kurugaya — Little Busters!

Kyuubey — Puella Magi Madoka Magica

Itaru Hashida — Steins;Gate

Yuki Nagato — Suzumiya Haruhi no Yuuutsu

How Each Myers-Briggs Type Responds to Endless Videos of Your Children on Facebook

It’s summer, and my brain’s on vacation.  I’ve got another serious post in the works, but it’s just not ready yet.

In the meantime, let’s stick to Myers-Briggs humor.  Always a hit.  😀  ALL IN FUN, PEOPLE!  No offense here.  This is just for laughs!  😀

Little Johnny can say his ABCs.  Emma has learned to count in Spanish.  You post a video of each.  Why not?  We all do it. 

But wait!  The very next day, Johnny has miraculously begun to speak Latin fluently, and Emma has started performing open-heart surgery on patients at the local hospital!  All at the tender age of seven and eight!  You just have to post again.  Six videos in a row won’t make your Facebook friends run like they were escaping a zombie apocalypse, right?  I mean, come on!  These videos are dynamite!

Here’s how your friends are responding, according to their Myers-Briggs type:

ESFJ – Posted the six videos of her kids to begin with!

INFJ – Has five minutes to upload a piece of art to Instagram, and then is private-messaging five people he’s having personal conversations with.  Doesn’t have time for your video at all, but has opened a tab to view later.  It makes him feel like a good friend, even though he’ll probably actually never watch the video.  He clicks “like” anyway.

ENFJ – Finally finds a library where she has Internet access.  Gets online and is confused by the new Facebook changes.  Sees nothing on her newsfeed but an inflaming political post from her third cousin.  Realizes, yet again, that she hates Facebook, she leaves.  Never sees your video, and wonders why you can’t email her the 385MB files personally so she doesn’t have to go find them.

ISFJ – Watches all of the videos faithfully, liking every single one, but leaving no comments.

ESTJ – Watches two of the six videos, and makes a wisecrack about your funny-looking pants in one scene.  Later comments your lungs must be getting worse because he can hear your breathing in every video.  How is your asthma?

ISTJ – Comments on a profile picture you have of yourself and says, “Nice hair.  How are the kids?”  You mention that you recently posted videos, and you gush, gush, gush about how he has to go watch them.  You never hear back from him.

INTJ – Clicks, “See less from this person.”

ENTP – Finds that ONE time Buzzfeed posted to your page without your permission, letting everyone know you took a “How hot are you?” quiz.  Likes that post and comments about an old movie she saw once where the word “hot” was actually an alien code word for an invasion.  Gives you the plot details.  You don’t reply.

INTP – Never uses his Facebook account.  Occasionally posts a one sentence status about work.  You are confused and can’t decipher it.

ENTJ – Says, “This is awesome” on one of the videos, and has already assessed what college your kid should go to and what career track would be right.  Says he is open to discussing it with you, but then vanishes offline for a week to go be productive.

ISTP – Comments on your choice of music in one of the videos.  Wants to discuss bands, and which song artistically goes with which selfie of herself she has recently posted.

ESTP – Comments, “Should be outside instead!  You’re keeping your kids cooped up doing academic things during summer?  Let them be kids, by golly!  They’ve got plenty of time to sit in school.  Seven years old and already your forcing her to study brain surgery?  Get a life, ESFJ!”

INFP – Emails you privately saying, “You’re a great mother.”  Never comments publicly on anything.

ISFP – Begs for more videos of you instead.  Writes with a lot of emoticons. “This is great and all, but I want to see more of YOUUUUUU!  🙂  🙂  🙂  ❤  Lol!!!  ❤  Remember how cute you were at Hannah’s wedding?  OMW!  OMG!”  You smile and *blush*, but are confused as to what that has to do with your kids.

ENFP – Is too busy posting pictures of her own kids’ various stitches to have time to watch videos.  Current status: “Next ER visit, here we come!”

ESFP – Does not have a Facebook account at all.  Is out living a real life.  Just appears in everyone else’s pictures with perfect hair.